Nollywood actress and filmmaker Ruth Kadiri has shared why she and her husband chose a quiet life together.
In a candid interview on the Dear Ife series, she discussed her fears around marriage and why their wedding was kept small.
Ruth Kadiri admitted she had a genuine phobia of marriage. The idea of becoming someone’s wife brought uncertainty and a fear of the unknown.
She also wanted to avoid the drama often associated with public relationships. So she and her husband agreed on a low-key wedding in 2019 with only 50 guests—25 invited by her and 25 by him.
“I didn’t want a lot of drama regarding my relationship,” she said. She explained that the small ceremony helped them stay grounded and build their marriage without external pressure or social media noise.
She stated that people keep claiming she’s hiding her husband, but that is not true. “For clarity, my husband is not a secret. People who know me know my husband. My husband is someone that we literally go almost everywhere together, and they post his pictures. It’s just that people don’t know him.”
She clarified that they attend church and events together. Media sometimes share his pictures. However, her husband prefers to stay out of the spotlight. He seldom posts personal photos and mostly shares faith-based content. Because he isn’t a celebrity, many people do not recognise him even when he’s right there with her.
Ruth has said this approach has benefitted her marriage. There’s no external pressure on her husband, and she doesn’t have to deal with public opinion affecting their relationship. She also mentioned that she never felt pressured to marry and wasn’t the type to daydream about it.
When they first met at work, she was not interested. She later felt strongly that he was the one, even though she blocked him shortly afterwards. He kept trying, and months later, they became engaged.
